💔 STOP GASLIGHTING YOURSELF
Here’s what nobody tells you about narcissistic abuse recovery:
Understanding what happened doesn’t automatically restore who you were before it happened.
You can read every book, watch every YouTube video, and still wake up feeling like a stranger in your own skin.

That’s because healing trauma and rebuilding your identity are two different processes—and most programs only address one.
 
“Who am I when I’m not surviving?”
🕯️ This Playbook Is for You If:
✓ You’re tired of watching yourself react in ways you hate
✓ You’ve spent nights scrolling NarcTok, Reddit, or YouTube for answers that don’t stick
✓ You’re scared you’ll repeat the same pattern in your next relationship
✓ People keep saying “just get over it” while your body still reacts like it’s in a war zone
✓ You want your daughters, nieces, or sisters to see a new model of womanhood—starting with you
✓ You’re done being a shell of who you used to be and ready to reclaim the woman you were meant to become
You don’t have to do it alone.
 
💡 Why This Works When Other Things Haven’t
 
Most healing resources focus on understanding the narcissist.
This one focuses on restoring you.
🔹 Trauma-informed: Calms your nervous system first so tools actually stick
🔹 CBT-based: Rewires gaslighting damage to rebuild self-trust
🔹 Real-life design: Works in chaos—no hour-long meditations or perfect conditions required
 
💬 What Women Say
“I finally have language for what I’m feeling—and a plan for what to do about it.”
“For the first time since leaving, I can make a decision without my ex’s voice in my head.”
“This is what I needed after therapy helped me understand but couldn’t help me rebuild.”
If you’re reading this at 2 AM, scrolling for answers while everyone expects you to “get over it,” you’re in the right place.
 
🧠 What No One Talks About
You didn’t just lose the relationship—you lost yourself.
The confident woman became anxious.
The trusting woman became suspicious.
The social woman started canceling plans because the anxiety hit out of nowhere.
You’re not crazy. You’re rewired.

Everyone talks about healing trauma.
No one talks about restoring the identity that got erased.
That’s what this Playbook does differently.
 
📘 What’s Inside — The Missing Piece Everyone Skips
A 38-page workbook using Coach Yolanda’s Detox → Dismantle → Restore → Protect framework—the same process that takes you from “I don’t recognize myself” to “I finally feel like me again.”
🔹 Critic ID Quiz (Pages 4–5)
 
Find out which survival persona you’re still living as:
The Perfectionist: “If I do everything right, maybe I’ll be safe.”
The People-Pleaser: “If everyone likes me, they won’t hurt me.”
The Invisible One: “If I don’t take up space, I can’t be a target.”
The Tough Girl: “If I never show weakness, no one can use it against me.”
 
The version of you that survived isn’t the same one meant to thrive. This quiz helps you take off the mask.
🔹 Five-Step Rewire Worksheets (Pages 7–10)
Transform thoughts like:
“I always mess things up.” → “One mistake doesn’t define me.”
“I can’t trust my judgment.” → “My gut was right about ___.”
“People always leave.” → “Some stay—I can see the difference.”
These aren’t affirmations; they’re CBT rewires built for women whose minds were hijacked by gaslighting.
 
🔹 SOS Pattern-Interrupt Cards
For the 2 AM scrolls, the sudden panic, or that moment you freeze mid-conversation—use these 60-second resets to stop the spiral before it hijacks your day.
 
🔹 Trigger Tracker
Learn what truly sets you off, how your body signals danger, and which coping tools bring you back.
“The hardest part is not knowing who I am anymore.”
This tracker teaches you your new nervous system—so you can navigate it instead of being ruled by it.
 
🔹 Boundary Script Builder
Get the exact words to say—without the guilt.
“That topic’s off-limits for me.”
“When you interrupt me, please let me finish my thought.”
“I’m not available for that right now.”
Because boundaries shouldn’t come with shame hangovers.
 
🔹 Progress Radar Chart
Track weekly growth in six key areas:
Self-Trust · Calm · Boundaries · Confidence · Clarity · Self-Talk
Watch your wheel expand and your authentic self return.
🔹 Crown-Work Challenge
14 reflective prompts to answer the question that haunts every survivor:

“Who am I when I’m not surviving?”
 
🔥 Your Hell-to-Heaven GPS
 
Hell: Hypervigilance, shame loops, overthinking, isolation, people-pleasing, and exhaustion.
Heaven: Reclaimed identity, unshakable self-trust, broken trauma cycles, emotional safety, confident decisions, peaceful nervous system, clear boundaries, radiant self-worth.
If you’re between the two, this is your roadmap.
 
🧩 Why This Works When Therapy Hasn’t
Therapy helps you process what happened.

This playbook helps you rebuild who you became because of it.
 
Trauma-informed: Calms the body before addressing the mind
CBT-based: Repairs thought patterns gaslighting destroyed
Designed for real life: Even when you can’t “just meditate”
 
💬 Real Words from Women Using This Method
“Nobody talks about how you lose your personality, not just the relationship.”
“This workbook is helping me figure out who I am again.”
“I thought something was wrong with me—turns out my nervous system was just trained to survive.”
“After all the videos and blogs, this finally gave me actual steps.”
 
🚀 Your Next Step
 
You have three choices:
1️⃣ Keep scrolling for free advice that validates but doesn’t rebuild you.
2️⃣ Wait for therapy to have an opening and hope they understand narc abuse recovery.
3️⃣ Download this Playbook for $47 and start your Personality Reclamation tonight.
👉 Instant PDF · Printable & Fillable · Start within 10 minutes.
 
The woman you were before the narcissist isn’t gone.
She’s buried under survival mechanisms—the Perfectionist, the People-Pleaser, the Invisible One.
This Playbook gives you the excavation tools.
You’re not broken. Your nervous system is simply doing what it was trained to do.
Now, you get to retrain it.
 
🔓 Add to Cart & Reclaim the Woman in the Mirror.
P.S. — “I’m mourning who I was before I met them.”
If that line hits you in the chest, this Playbook was written for you.
The mourning is real.

The restoration is possible.