Coach Yolanda Denise
Certified Trauma Informed
Cognitive Behavior (CBT), &
Therapeutic Life Coach
I help women detox the narcissistic trauma that rewired their identity—the overthinking, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and hypervigilance—so they can restore their true personality and step back into life with confidence.
Through my 5-step Trauma Detox Method, I guide women from survival mode to authentic living using trauma-informed coaching, therapeutic art, and cognitive behavioral techniques.
You Don't Recognize the Woman in the Mirror. I Know Why.
Identity Reclamation Coaching With Yolanda Denise
Instagram: @yolandadeniseco_
If I'm Not My Trauma Responses, My Survival Personas, and My Adaptive Behaviors—Who Am I Actually?
That's the question that kept me up at night.
And if you're here, it's probably the question keeping you up too.
My Story: When Rejection Became Protection
Three years ago, I was fighting for my life in a hospital bed.
COVID pneumonia. A week hooked up to machines. Struggling for every breath.
And while I was there—wondering if I'd see my children again—my partner was with another woman.
He left. Abandoned our kids. Moved on while I was dying.
When I came home and found out, I let out a silent scream. Tears rolled down my face.
The pain was indescribable.
But underneath it all?
Relief.
Pure, undeniable, bone-deep relief.
Not because I didn't love him.
But because my body knew something my trauma-bonded mind hadn't accepted yet:
His absence was better than his presence.
And in that moment—gasping for air, tears streaming, heart shattered—I recognized something:
My worth.
Not the worth I had to earn by being perfect, silent, or convenient.
My inherent worth.
The worth that said: I deserve better than this.
And I understood:
His rejection wasn't my failure. It was my PROTECTION.
Protection from more years of betrayal. More trauma. More disappearing inside myself to make room for his ego.
That rejection stopped the cycle.
But here's what nobody tells you about surviving narcissistic abuse:
The relief doesn't mean the work is over.
Because even after they're gone, you still don't recognize yourself.
The Identity Crisis No One Warns You About
After narcissistic abuse, you look in the mirror and think:
"Who is this person?"
The confident woman became anxious.
The trusting woman became hypervigilant.
The vocal woman became silent.
The social woman became isolated.
The spontaneous woman became calculated.
You became:
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The Perfectionist ("If I'm flawless, maybe I'll be safe")
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The People-Pleaser ("If I make everyone happy, maybe they won't leave")
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The Caretaker ("If I fix everyone else, maybe I matter")
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The Small One ("If I take up no space, maybe I won't be a target")
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The Overachiever ("If I prove my worth constantly, maybe I'm enough")
These aren't flaws.
These are survival personas.
They kept you alive when nothing else would.
But now? They're running your life on autopilot.
And you're left asking:
"If I'm not my survival personas, who am I actually?"
Most Trauma Recovery Focuses on Healing What Happened. I Focus on Reclaiming WHO You Are Underneath What Happened.
That's the difference between trauma healing and identity reclamation.
I'm Coach Yolanda Denise—Certified Trauma-Informed Life Coach, CBT Life Coach, and founder of My Human Diary Relationship Coaching LLC.
And I specialize in the question general trauma therapy doesn't address:
"Who am I when I'm not surviving narcissistic abuse?"
My combination of certifications creates a unique approach:
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Trauma-Informed Life Coaching (to create safety in your nervous system)
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy techniques (to rewire your thought patterns)
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Therapeutic Art (to access parts of yourself words can't reach)
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Identity Restoration Frameworks (to systematically rebuild your authentic self)
I don't just help you process what happened.
I help you excavate who you are underneath what happened.
Does This Sound Like You?
✓ You don't recognize yourself anymore after narcissistic abuse
✓ You second-guess every decision because gaslighting rewired your self-trust
✓ You apologize for existing, shrinking to avoid conflict
✓ You're hypervigilant 24/7, scanning for danger even in safe relationships
✓ You isolate yourself to protect your peace, but the loneliness is suffocating
✓ You people-please automatically, saying yes when you mean no
✓ You're terrified of repeating the pattern in your next relationship
✓ You watch generational trauma play out in your family and refuse to pass it to your children
✓ You're asking: "Who am I when I'm not surviving?"
If any of these resonate, you're exactly who I work with.
What Transforms When We Work Together
FROM THIS (Point A):
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Hypervigilant, constantly scanning for red flags and hidden meanings
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Shame loops: "Was it me? Why can't I just move on?"
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Second-guessing every decision, afraid to repeat mistakes
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Isolated to avoid judgment and unwanted advice
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Living in survival mode—overthinking, people-pleasing, overachieving
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Watching trauma cycles repeat in your family
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Dreaming of freedom but terrified you're too broken
TO THIS (Point Z):
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Reclaimed identity, emotional strength, self-trust restored
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Unshakable boundaries rooted in self-worth
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Healthy relationship blueprint, trauma-bond broken for good
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Seeing and naming patterns—stopping them before they take root
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Attracting emotionally intelligent, respectful connections
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Released the need to over-function to prove your worth
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Cycle breaker for your daughters, nieces, sisters
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Stepping fully into emotional freedom and daily alignment
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Dressing with confidence. Speaking with certainty. Deciding with clarity.
You become the sovereign author of your own story.
What You Receive
✨ Identity Reclamation Coaching rooted in trauma-informed practice, CBT, and therapeutic art
✨ The 5-Step Framework designed specifically for narcissistic abuse survivors
✨ Judgment-Free Space where your story is honored, not questioned
✨ Voxer Support between sessions for real-time guidance
✨ Measurable Progress tracking confidence, boundaries, and self-trust
✨ Sustainable Transformation that endures long after coaching ends
Work With Me
FREE: Trauma Trigger Decoder Worksheet
The tool I used to start distinguishing between trauma responses and authentic intuition. Download it, use it daily, and start asking: "Am I making this choice as my survival persona or my authentic self?"
Link in my Instagram Bio: yolandadeniseco_
12-Week Program: The Trauma Detox Intensive
My signature group coaching program for women ready to do deep identity reclamation work. WAITLIST OPENTING SOON!
📞 1:1 Private Coaching
For women who need personalized support for complex recovery journeys.
What's Included:
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Weekly or bi-weekly Zoom sessions
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Customized pace and focus
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Voxer access between sessions
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All 5 framework steps tailored to your specific situation
[BOOK FREE 30-MIN BREAKTHROUGH CALL]
Ready to Stop Surviving and Start Reclaiming?
Book your complimentary 30-minute Discovery Session.
In this call, we will:
✓ Identify the narcissistic abuse patterns still sabotaging your peace
✓ Pinpoint immediate steps to start your identity reclamation
✓ Determine if my trauma-informed, identity-focused coaching is right for you
[BOOK YOUR FREE DISCOVERY CALL]
You're Not Broken. You're Buried.
The woman you were before narcissistic abuse? She's not gone.
She's buried under survival mechanisms that kept you safe but are now running your life on autopilot.
The work isn't about healing what happened.
It's about reclaiming WHO you are underneath what happened.
That's identity reclamation.
And it's possible.
Stop editing yourself to stay safe.
Start living as the woman you were always meant to be—loud, clear, and liberated.
Coach Yolanda Denise
Certified Trauma-Informed & Cognitive Behavioral Life Coach
Identity Reclamation Specialist
Founder, My Human Diary Relationship Coaching LLC
Instagram: @yolandadeniseco_
P.S. Your Relief Was Right.
If you felt relief when your narcissist left—even mixed with pain—that's not betrayal.
That's your body recognizing protection.
His rejection was your redirection toward freedom.
And your relief? That's the evidence.
Welcome to the journey back to yourself. 🤍
Coach Yolanda
Master Self-Care + Healing Coach
Certified Trauma Informed, Cognitive Behavior, & Therapeutic Art Life Coach
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MHDRCoaching
At My Human Diary Relationship Coaching (MHDRC), I guide women through a trauma-informed, CBT-based process that restores strength and self-worth after disruptive chapters—break-ups, career pivots, family upheavals, or the fallout of narcissistic abuse. Think of MHDRC as your private confidante: a judgment-free space where you can lay down the armor, tell the unfiltered truth, and craft actionable goals. Together, we’ll steady the crown, recalibrate your power, and design a future you step into with clarity, confidence, and undeniable grace.
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My Vision
MY VISION, MISSION & VALUES
The Vision
I see a world where women stop asking "Why did this happen to me?"
And start asking "Who am I when I'm not surviving?"
Where narcissistic abuse survivors don't just heal from what happened—they reclaim who they are underneath what happened.
Where the woman looking back at you in the mirror isn't a stranger anymore—she's the authentic self you've been excavating, layer by layer, choice by choice.
Where relief about their leaving isn't followed by guilt—but by freedom.
Where daughters watch their mothers set boundaries without apologizing, speak truth without shrinking, and take up space without earning permission.
That's the world I'm building.
One woman. One identity reclamation. One broken cycle at a time.
The Mission
To help women answer the question that keeps them up at night:
"If I'm not my trauma responses, my survival personas, and my adaptive behaviors—who am I actually?"
Because most trauma recovery focuses on processing what happened.
But nobody addresses what happens to YOUR IDENTITY after.
Nobody talks about how narcissistic abuse doesn't just hurt you—it systematically rewires who you are.
It turns confident women anxious.
Trusting women hypervigilant.
Vocal women silent.
Social women isolated.
Spontaneous women calculated.
And then leaves you asking: "Who am I now?"
That's where I come in.
Through trauma-informed practices, CBT techniques, therapeutic art, and my 5-Step Identity Reclamation Framework, I help you:
✨ Distinguish between your survival persona and your authentic self
✨ Excavate the woman buried under survival mechanisms
✨ Rebuild your personality from the ground up—not who you were before, but who you're meant to be
✨ Break generational patterns so your daughters never inherit what you're healing from
✨ Live from authentic identity instead of trauma identity
This isn't about "getting over it."
This is about discovering who you are when you're not surviving anymore.
What I Stand For
Identity Over Image
You don't need to perform anymore.
No more twisting yourself into shapes to earn love. No more shrinking to make others comfortable. No more apologizing for taking up space.
Your authentic identity—the woman underneath the survival personas—is enough.
I help you excavate her. Not the "polished" version. Not the "healed and perfect" version.
The REAL version.
The one who knows her worth without proving it. The one who sets boundaries without guilt. The one who speaks truth without rehearsing.
That's who we're building.
Rejection as Protection
You've been taught that rejection = failure.
I'm here to tell you: Your rejection was your protection.
When my partner left me while I was fighting for my life in the hospital—abandoned me and our children to be with another woman—
I felt relief.
Not because I didn't love him.
But because my body knew his absence was better than his presence.
His rejection protected me from more trauma. More betrayal. More years of disappearing.
And yours did too.
At Yolanda Denise & Co., we don't mourn rejection. We celebrate the protection it gave you from more of who they are.
Conscious Choice Over Automatic Survival
After narcissistic abuse, you live in autopilot survival mode.
The Perfectionist. The People-Pleaser. The Caretaker. The Small One. The Overachiever.
These personas kept you safe. But they're running your life now.
Identity reclamation = conscious choice.
You get to CHOOSE when to use these tools instead of defaulting to them automatically.
That's freedom.
And at Yolanda Denise & Co., we give you the framework to practice that choice daily—until choosing your authentic self becomes your new default.
Cycle Breaking, Not Just Healing
Your mother apologized for existing. Her mother did too.
Three generations of women who believed love requires erasing yourself.
But you're the one who said: This ends with me.
At Yolanda Denise & Co. we don't just heal YOUR trauma, We Break patterns!
Heal from past hurts, Take back control of your life, and Nurture yourself into a stronger, more empowered version of yourself!
What Results Will You See with MHDRC?
My Human Diary Relationship Coaching LLC (MHDRC) is the cornerstone of every program I deliver through Yolanda Denise & Co. — the clinical engine powering your transformation from narcissistic trauma to unshakeable self-authority. Here’s what you can expect when you step inside MHDRC:
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Custom Resilience Blueprint
A trauma-informed, CBT-driven plan that rebuilds emotional stability and daily momentum. -
Unshakable Confidence
Self-esteem that isn’t performative—it radiates from deep internal conviction. -
Future-Focused Clarity
A compelling vision anchored in your purpose, not in past distortions. -
Elevated Mental Well-Being
Evidence-based self-care protocols that lower anxiety, lift mood, and sustain growth. -
Non-Negotiable Self-Worth
Practical strategies to live boldly in your truth—no apologies, no shrinking. -
Safety & Boundary Protocols
Step-by-step safeguards that keep toxic relationships out of your orbit—for good. -
Healthy Coping Arsenal
CBT techniques and trauma-informed tools to navigate tough emotions with strength and grace.
Why Choose MHDRC?
Every high-performing woman deserves a sanctuary where her recovery is taken as seriously as her résumé. Inside MHDRC:
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Healing Is Actionable – We don’t just talk about trauma; we dismantle it with proven methods and measurable goals.
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Rejection Becomes Redirection – Narcissistic discard was never a verdict on your worth; it was a detour to protection.
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Your Voice Takes Center Stage – Hard truths, assertive boundaries, and unapologetic self-expression become your new normal.
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Real Talk, Zero Fluff – I cut through sugar-coating so you reclaim leadership in your own life—inside and out. #HighHeelsHigherStandards
This isn’t a feel-good corner of the internet—it’s a movement to end the generational recycling of narcissistic trauma and elevate how women in your circle live, think, and rise.
Welcome to Your Empowerment Haven
Your healing starts the moment you choose to leave silence and “playing safe” behind. MHDRC is here to adjust our crowns, embrace the truth, and architect lives rooted in peace, purpose, and unapologetic power.
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Your journey begins now. Welcome to Yolanda Denise & Co. and the transformative power of MHDRC.