Taboo Tuesday: How Narcissistic Trauma Hijacks Your Personality

Narcissistic trauma doesn’t just hurt your feelings — it rewires your personality. Here’s how it shows up with parents, siblings, partners, and friends.

Why Are We Accepting the Things That Do Not Serve Us?

We’ve got to do better.Because here’s the ugly truth — narcissistic trauma doesn’t just break your heart or kill your trust. It reshapes you. It hijacks your personality and leaves you operating as a version of yourself that you don’t even recognize.

And the worst part? You think it’s “just who you are now.” No. That’s not the real you — that’s the survival mode version the trauma built.

Let’s break it down.

From a Narcissistic Parent

• You become a chronic over-explainer, apologizing for existing.

• Every decision feels like a test you’ll fail, so you triple-check everything — even texts.

• You downplay your wins because you were trained that your success is their competition.

  
  

From a Narcissistic Sibling

• You start to shrink yourself so they don’t feel threatened — even in adulthood.

• “Healthy rivalry” feels unsafe, so you avoid opportunities that put you in the spotlight.

• You second-guess your instincts because they spent years convincing you that you were “too much” or “too sensitive.”

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From a Narcissistic Partner

• You silence your needs because you learned asking equals punishment.

• Your self-worth becomes hooked on their crumbs of validation.

• You forget what actual peace feels like because chaos has been normalized.

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From a Narcissistic Friend

• You become the default fixer, overextending until you’re drained.

• You question your reality because they’ve rewritten the script so many times.

• You feel guilty for wanting reciprocity — as if expecting the same energy you give is “selfish.”

  
  

The Personality Shift is Real

Narcissistic trauma conditions you to operate from fear, hyper-vigilance, and self-doubt. Your humor gets muted. Your confidence gets fractured. And the bold, vibrant, take-up-space YOU? She gets buried under the weight of someone else’s ego.

This is why getting your personality back isn’t a luxury — it’s survival.

Your Next Move

You don’t have to stay in this rewired version of yourself. The real you is still in there — she’s just waiting for you to choose her again.

Start by getting my Inner Critic Playbook — the tool that walks you through identifying and shutting down the mental rewrites that narcissistic trauma plants in your head.🎯 On sale now at yolandadeniseco.com

Because this Tuesday, we’re not just talking about the taboo — we’re reclaiming what’s ours.

COACH YOLANDA