Are You Dealing with a Narcissist?

Borderline Narcissism — 9 Warning Signs That You Should Know

“When grandiosity slips on a humble disguise, it still leaves footprints on your peace of mind.”

If a certain person leaves you second-guessing your own memories, apologizing for things you didn’t do, or walking on eggshells around their moods, you may be facing what psychologists call borderline narcissism—strong narcissistic traits that fall just shy of a clinical diagnosis yet still wreak havoc on your life.

Below are the nine hallmark traits most often seen in Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and how they can show up in everyday relationships.

#	Trait	Everyday Example	How It Hurts You
1	Grandiose Self-Importance	Boasts about “single-handedly” saving the team or family	Diminishes your achievements and steals credit
2	Fantasies of Unlimited Success	Talks nonstop about future fame or fortune, ignores practical plans	Drags you into risky decisions or empty promises
3	Belief They’re “Special”	Claims only VIPs are worth their time	Makes you feel replaceable and “less than”
4	Need for Excessive Admiration	Constant fishing for compliments, sulks when praise is missing	Exhausts your emotional energy and attention
5	Sense of Entitlement	Expects you to rearrange your schedule on demand	Violates your boundaries and time commitments
6	Interpersonal Exploitation	Borrows money, contacts, or ideas without payback	Leaves you depleted—financially, socially, emotionally
7	Lack of Empathy	Minimizes your feelings, changes subject to themselves	Invalidates your reality and erodes self-esteem
8	Envy (or Belief Others Envy Them)	Belittles your successes, insists everyone’s jealous	Creates jealousy and competition where none existed
9	Arrogant Attitude	Eye-rolling, condescending tone, “rules don’t apply to me”	Chips away at your confidence and sense of safety

Recognizing Narcissistic Behavior: Why an Evidence-Based Approach Matters

When every discussion becomes a monologue, accountability disappears, and your reality is repeatedly questioned, accurate knowledge becomes a survival tool.

Accurate Identification — Mislabeling every difficult person as a “narcissist” dilutes the term and delays real solutions.

Safety & Boundary Setting — A structured plan reduces the emotional, financial, and psychological fallout that high-conflict people create.

Long-Term Resilience — Healing is more than willpower; it takes targeted tools that calm trauma responses, correct cognitive distortions, and rebuild self-leadership.

Your Digital Healing Toolkit

Ready to move from insight to action? These three downloadable resources guide you step-by-step through recovery—no shipping, no waiting, start tonight.

Ebook	Key Outcome	Why You’ll Love It When Dealing with a Narcissist
The Identity Rebuild: Reclaiming Identity After Narcissistic Abuse https://www.yolandadeniseco.com/product-page/the-mind-rewired-mental-recovery-after-narcissistic-abuse	The Identity Rebuild™ is your step-by-step mental reset—designed to retrain the thoughts, beliefs, and inner language that trauma distorted. It’s not about pretending everything is fine; it’s about teaching your brain that it finally is. This trauma-informed workbook helps you detox mental chaos, rebuild cognitive safety, and restore self-leadership so your thoughts start working for you, not against you.	Clears mental fog and emotional looping Reconnects you with calm, balanced thinking Strengthens the mind-body connection through self-awareness Rebuilds confidence, worth, and respect from the inside out Installs new cognitive habits that support peace, focus, and purpose
Is It Me or the Trauma? Self-Assessment & Workbook https://www.yolandadeniseco.com/product-page/is-it-me-or-the-trauma-a-trauma-informed-distortion-test	Separates genuine accountability from guilt trips and manipulation	Builds a clear boundary plan without unnecessary self-blame
Stop Gaslighting Yourself: The Inner Critic Workbook https://www.yolandadeniseco.com/product-page/the-inner-critic-workbook-guide-the-distortion-detox	Here’s what nobody tells you about narcissistic abuse recovery: Understanding what happened doesn’t automatically restore who you were before it happened. You can read every book, watch every YouTube video, and still wake up feeling like a stranger in your own skin. That’s because healing trauma and rebuilding your identity are two different processes—and most programs only address one. Who am I when I’m not surviving?”🕯️ This Playbook Is for You If:✓ You’re tired of watching yourself react in ways you hate✓ You’ve spent nights scrolling NarcTok, Reddit, or YouTube for answers that don’t stick✓ You’re scared you’ll repeat the same pattern in your next relationship✓ People keep saying “just get over it” while your body still reacts like it’s in a war zone✓ You want your daughters, nieces, or sisters to see a new model of womanhood—starting with you✓ You’re done being a shell of who you used to be and ready to reclaim the woman you were meant to become You don’t have to do it alone.	Most healing resources focus on understanding the narcissist. This one focuses on restoring you. 🔹 Trauma-informed: Calms your nervous system first so tools actually stick 🔹 CBT-based: Rewires gaslighting damage to rebuild self-trust 🔹 Real-life design: Works in chaos—no hour-long meditations or perfect conditions required

Download all three instantly at https://www.yolandadeniseco.com/shop. Work through them in sequence—

Final Thought

Narcissistic behavior feeds on confusion. With these nine signs and evidence-based tools in hand, you’ll see the pattern, protect your peace, and reclaim the brilliant life that was never theirs to control. Your voice and boundaries are non-negotiable—guard them fiercely.

All the best,

Coach Yolanda